How could one explain oneself ...                                THAT SOME FIND DE-ESCALATION SO DIFFICULT

 

Because you are too focused on yourself. Because you don't try to empathize with the other person. Because you want to be right. Because you really want to achieve your aims.

 

Conflicts arise due to different goals between people.

Certain patterns have formed for conflict resolution that one has learned or adopted (e.g. from role models).

The most unfortunate solution is violence. Because violence usually breeds violence, and this in turn breeds violence. This creates a spiral that creates a lot of suffering for everyone involved.

 

Patterns have been learned and can also be unlearned again. One way of doing this is by trying to recall situations that created or reinforced these patterns.

Why do many people use violence?

• Because they had violent people as role models.

• Because they think they are strong and it's the easiest way.

• Because they learned it in the family.

• Because they grew up in a social environment for which violence as a way of resolving conflicts was normal.

Resolving conflicts should always start with acknowledging the other person, taking them for what they are.

 

The ideal solution would be to seek a solution to the conflict together with the other.

 

It would be helpful for a de-escalation to keep in mind:

• "What happened had to happen as it happened" (this way you don't judge, avoid assigning blame),

• Finding the right words, using descriptive phrases – primarily naming the other person's feelings – that start with an 'it' and contain no accusation. For example: "It seems..." or: "It looks like..." and then pausing to give the other person the opportunity to respond (this is how you focus on the situation and don't attack the other person). , and gets information from and about him),

• try to see the situation from the other person's perspective (this puts your own point of view into perspective and you can understand the other person better),

• Remain friendly and speak calmly (this shows the other person that you don't see aggression as a solution).

 

 

Appendix:

 

Dictators

 

A dictator is characterized by the fact that he has no interest in the aims of others.

You won't find de-escalation in him - unless it serves his own purposes.

I.e. he is trapped in his world. And often feels like the chosen one.

There are dictators not only in politics, but in all areas of life. However, that's where they do the most damage.

 

 

 

 

 

This article may also be interesting:

 

Researchers identify the neural basis of threatening and aggressive behaviors in Drosophila

November 9, 2018 by Lori Dajose, California Institute of Technology

Researchers identify the neural basis of threatening and aggressive behaviors in Drosophila

A fruit fly raising its wings in a threat display. Credit: Anderson laboratory

You can always tell when two guys are about to get into a fight. It starts with angry stares, puffed-out chests, arms tossed out to the side, and little, aggressive starts forward. Neuroscientists call the combination of these physical movements "threat displays," and they are seen in countless organisms, from humans to tiny Drosophila fruit flies. Caltech researchers have now identified a small cluster of neurons in the male fly brain that governs this threatening behavior. Their work provides a starting point that may lead to greater understanding of threatening behaviors and aggression in humans.

The work was led by senior postdoctoral scholar Brian Duistermars and carried out in the laboratory of David Anderson, the Seymour Benzer Professor of Biology, Tianqiao and Chrissy Chen Institute for Neuroscience Leadership Chair, Howard Hughes Medical Institute Investigator, and director of the Tianqiao and Chrissy Chen Institute for Neuroscience. A paper describing the research appears online in the journal Neuron on November 8.

"Threat displays are virtually universal in the animal kingdom but we have known virtually nothing about how they are controlled by the brain," says Anderson. "Human observers can tell the difference between threat behavior and contact aggression; the question is whether the brain also 'knows the difference'—meaning, whether there are separate brain centers controlling threat displays versus actual fighting, or whether threats versus contact aggression just reflect weaker versus stronger activation of some kind of generic aggression circuit. To use a radio analogy, is it just turning up the volume on the same station, or switching between different stations?"

For the first time, Duistermars and his colleagues were able to definitively characterize the elemental movements of a fly's threat display: rapid, short charges forward; continual reorientation toward the opponent; and wings thrown out to the side and upward to make the fly look larger. Using this quantitative description of threats, the team identified a small cluster of three neurons, called the threat module, which generates this complex threatening behavior.

Once they had identified this neural threat module, the researchers genetically modified the cluster of neurons to enable their artificial stimulation or silencing. Normally, flies exhibit a threat display only when they detect another male fly's pheromones and see that fly move. However, artificial activation of the threat module caused the flies to exhibit a threat display without any actual targets in their environment. The team found that a low amount of activation initiated the fly's quick charges and reorientation behaviors; a higher amount of activation added the wing movements.

"There are different intensities of aggression, from mild to wild threat displays, and from threats to actual physical violence," says Duistermars. "We want to know how animal nervous systems generate this kind of escalation in aggressive expressions."

The group found that stimulating the threat module was only sufficient to induce threats, but not to initiate a physical attack. But when the neurons were inhibited, the flies would progress straight to attacking without exhibiting any threats. This could imply that threat behaviors and attacking behaviors are controlled by separate neurons.

The next step for the team is to examine the rest of this so-called neural circuit: the neurons that are upstream and downstream of the threat module.

"We speculate that these threat neurons are integrating multiple sensory inputs, like male pheromonal cues and visual motion, and transforming them into complex motor output," says Duistermars. "To build on this work, we want to know how peripheral sensory circuits activate threat neurons and, in turn, how threat neurons activate the circuits that generate threatening movements."

"Humans display threats in a manner similar to flies, so we might have a similar set of neurons in our own brains that generate these expressions," he adds. "This work is an important advance in understanding how animal brains coordinate complex social behaviors. In this sense, I really see the study of flies as continuous with the study of ourselves."

The paper is titled, "A brain module for scalable control of complex, multi-motor threat displays."

Explore further: How social isolation transforms the brain

More information: Brian J. Duistermars et al. A Brain Module for Scalable Control of Complex, Multi-motor Threat Displays, Neuron (2018). DOI: 10.1016/j.neuron.2018.10.027

 

Provided by: California Institute of Technology 

 

 

How could one 

explain oneself...

 

altruism

 

anchor

 

atheist

 

attachment in children

 

Body-mind separation

 

Brain (and its “operational

 

secret")

 

Brain (how it works)

 

brain flexibility

 

Brain versus computer

 

chaos

 

chosen

 

consciousness (description)

 

conscience

 

common sense

 

Complexes

 

creativity / intuition

 

Descendants

 

De-escalation

 

depression

 

Determinism

 

distraction / priming

 

Dreams

 

Empathy / sympathy

 

fall asleep

 

fate

 

feelings (origin)

 

First impression

 

emotional perceptions (feelings and emotionality)

 

forget (looking for)

 

frame

 

Free will

 

freedom

 

frontal lobe

 

future

 

growth

 

gut feeling

 

Habits

 

Inheritance, Genetics, Epigenetics

 

Heuristics

 

How the world came into being

 

How values arise

 

Ideas (unintentional)

 

Immanuel Kant

 

Inheritance, Genetics, Epigenetics

 

karma

 

Love

 

Location of the goals

 

Meditation (relaxation)

 

Midpoint-mechanics (function and explanation)

 

Mind

 

Mirror neurons

 

near-death experiences

 

objective and subjective

 

Panic

 

perception

 

Perfection

 

placedos

 

prejudice

 

primordial structures

 

Prophecy, self-fulfilling

 

psyche (Definition and representation)

 

Qualia-Problem

 

Rage on oneself

 

See only black or white

 

sleep

 

the SELF (definition)

 

Self-control

 

[sense of] self-esteem

 

self-size

 

Similarities

 

Self-knowledge

 

soul / spirit

 

Substances and laws (definition)

 

Superstition

 

thinking

 

trauma

 

truth and faith

 

Values

 

yin and yang

 

 

What kind of reader would you characterize yourself as?

 

1. I can't understand this.

2. I don't want to understand that because it doesn't fit my own worldview. (So, not to the aims that created this.)

3. I use my cognitive abilities to understand it.

4. I has judged beforehand and thinks I alredy understands everything.